My Guardian Angel

She creeps into the edge of my conscious thought when I least expect her. Her blue eyes shining out from beneath long dark curls.  Her smile taunts my thoughts, my feelings, teasing me as she arrives at a moment when I have to concentrate on something else. Her hair has changed colour and length overContinue reading “My Guardian Angel”

Being out doesn’t mean I hate men, it just means I’m confident in who I am

It also means that when I talk about my husbands, of which there are two and of which there will only ever be two, I don’t mean my legal/matrimonial husbands. I mean two men with whom I have a connection that goes deeper than friendship.  My fiancée accepts their roles in my life and sheContinue reading “Being out doesn’t mean I hate men, it just means I’m confident in who I am”

Let’s not forget that there are more parts to the Queer community than just the one(s) we belong to

I have been asked on occasion how my Genderqueer identity and my Lesbian identity are not in conflict.  My answer is always simple, my gender and my sexuality are not the same thing, although, working together in harmony, they combine to make part of the greater whole that is me.

Suanne Braun, Nicole deBoer and Neve McIntosh or I love the women of sci fi and the actors behind the characters

I am a geek, there’s no denying it. There’s no denying my past or my sexuality either. Growing up there weren’t really any lesbian characters on my screen (with the exception of Bad Girls) so I turned to Sci Fi television and any books I could to find strong women to look up to, Stargate,Continue reading “Suanne Braun, Nicole deBoer and Neve McIntosh or I love the women of sci fi and the actors behind the characters”

I am an immigrant – now there’s a statement you didn’t expect from me

I have a British accent, I have a British passport, but living here in West Yorkshire, I am an immigrant. The Oxford English Dictionary describes an immigrant as:  a person who comes to live permanently in a foreign country: By this very definition I am an immigrant. England is not my country of birth. YesContinue reading “I am an immigrant – now there’s a statement you didn’t expect from me”

A conversation with my younger self

There are times I wish I could go back and talk to my 9 year old self.  I want to wrap the scrawny kid I was up in my arms and tell hir that life is not always easy but there are moments of incredible beauty and joy, no matter how things are going atContinue reading “A conversation with my younger self”

Wrapped in the wings of an angel’s embrace

It seems that some people are brought into your life for a reason. Sometimes that reason is glaringly obvious, sometimes not.  But when someone is brought into your life and gets you through the most difficult times over and over again, you can’t help but wondering if they are really human. I’ve contemplated this withContinue reading “Wrapped in the wings of an angel’s embrace”

Labels schmabels

Lesbian, Boi, Goth, Punk, Flower Child, Christian, Pagan, Loving, Nuturing, Selfish, Carefree, Stressed, Fiancé, Child, Sister, Brother, Geek, Nerd, Fundraiser, Goof, Feminine, Masculine, Beyond gender, Queer, Reader, Writer, Lover, Fighter, Strong, Weak, Disabled, Able, Thoughtful, Careless, Clumsy, Poised, Skinny, Fat, Over-eater, Anorexic, Bulimic, Daughter, Grandchild… Putting a label on someone is like trying to fit them into a box.  Each of the labels above could be applied to me. Each of them have been.  None of them sums me up as a whole. Why should we allow labels to define who weContinue reading “Labels schmabels”

I can’t pinpoint the moment I fell in love with music

But I can pinpoint the moments where some of my favourite artists entered my life and certain songs can bring me back to certain parts of my life.  I guess it’s the same for a lot of people.  I just sat here listening to a two track CD that I have had since the AmericanContinue reading “I can’t pinpoint the moment I fell in love with music”

Gender Identity should not be that hard to understand

I am sick of having to explain that I am neither male nor female.  That I am Genderqueer/Genderfluid/Gender non-conforming/Trans* (Transgender is the umbrella under which non-traditional gender identities fall, as is Trans*, it doesn’t just refer to Transsexuals).  I am sick of going round and round in circles with people because of the way languageContinue reading “Gender Identity should not be that hard to understand”