If you have followed me for any length of time, you know that I’m fairly vocal about the fact I went through molestation, emotional, and physical abuse at the hands of my father. You will know that as a result of this I am living my life with C-PTSD. That I regularly have flashbacks, nightmares and panic attacks, and that I’m working to deal with these things. You will also know that as a result of untreated C-PTSD, General Anxiety Disorder and depression, I have attempted to take my life five times, and planned it a further two. The last time I planned it being five years ago this May.
Life as an abuse survivor is difficult. It is a life lived with shame for the abuse you have been through. It’s fear that you will be abused by others. Sometimes it’s being abused by others. It’s being in a position where you are very often left dealing with trauma that haunts you for the rest of your life in one way or another. And just because I everything can look good on the surface doesn’t make it so underneath.
“His sexual needs were his sexual needs, coming from whatever childhood he has or whatever DNA he has,” she said. “You can say ‘molested,’ but those children, as you heard say [the grown-up Robson and Safechuck], they were thrilled to be there. They both married and they both have children, so it didn’t kill them.”
Quite frankly for this alone I would like to sit down and talk to her. I want to explain to her that she is beyond out of line. I do not care if the allegations are false or true. I do not care if, as many believe, the men are after money, I want her held accountable for her words. I want her to realise that words like that have an impact.
What would she say if someone told her that people who survived the Holocaust and went on to have families clearly didn’t die so they are fine? And before you jump down my throat, please remember with the exception of the fact I’m not Jewish I hit many of the checkboxes for the camps, I’m disabled, autistic, have mental health issues, am Romani, I’m lesbian and non-binary… I could go on….
Her words are uncaring, extremely disappointing, and as an icon within the LGBTQIA community, a community with an extremely high rate of sexual abuse, appalling.
I respectfully ask you to look at what you said.
I am not about to voice my personal opinions on what Mr Jackson did or didn’t do. But I will voice my opinions on your horrendous comment.
You have chosen to alienate people with an opinion that does not and will not sit well with people. Are you trying to be controversial? Or are you really that metaphorically blind that you can’t see the damn wood for the trees?