Separating your feminist ideals from the Trans* fight for rights is the most ridiculous thing you could do.

Let me make this clear, before I go any further.

ALL WOMEN ARE WOMEN

There, I said it. Now do I need to say it any clearer? Oh, I do… so that your dumbass ‘feminist’ self can understand things better. OK. I can do that. Oh did I put feminist in quotation marks? Well here’s the reason why:

1. Just because a woman was born with a penis doesn’t make her any less of a woman.
2. You denying that Trans* Women exist is part of the problem.
3. Trans* Women may not be able to have your specific syndrome, but newsflash, Trans* Men can. Because they were born with the same sex organs as you (and yes they are STILL men).
4. When you tell my fiancée that she’s oppressing you for voicing her valid opinion on the way you are treating people because they weren’t born with a gender/sex organ alignment like you were you’re showing your lack of education.
5. When you base your entire argument on nothing but your own feelings you discount the millions of other women worldwide who are different from you and do not subscribe to your narrow way of thinking. So please don’t speak for every feminist.

I have gone past mad to feeling pity for you. Actual pity. Because you don’t have any clue what you’re talking about. You’re looking at things from the ‘I have this condition and am a woman and therefore I’m going to throw all my toys out of the pram’ point of view. The one that says everyone else is wrong because you’re so narrow minded. I can play that game too:

• I have arthritis
• I have dyslexia
• I have Asperger’s Syndrome
• I am in a woman’s body which automatically disadvantages me
• I am a Lesbian – how many places in the world can I not get married in? Let me give you a clue, it’s over 50% of the countries.
• I am also Genderqueer and trapped in a body that doesn’t reflect me and getting people to use my preferred pronouns is a battle.

But do I choose these parts of me to accuse others with a valid and appropriate response of a myriad of things including oppression? No. Someone tells me that I’m discounting someone else’s oppression or that someone else has further to go than I do to gain certain rights, I listen, I discuss it with them and I research it. I am for women’s rights in the same way I’m for LGTBQ rights, and the same way I’m all for raising awareness of illnesses/syndromes/disabilities – with an open heart and mind.

Do I know your struggle first hand? No. Do I know how it’s affected my fiancée and one of my closest friends, yes. Do I know the agony it has caused them, yes? Do I see it daily, yes. Do you have experience of my bullet points? If so I’d love to talk to you about them, if not I’d love to talk to you about them. The fact is we’re both from marginalised groups and educating each other could lead to helping each other. But please don’t push your views on someone else and expect them to listen without opening yourselves up to them too.